Do you still remember the first time you experienced a heart ache? It was like the end of the world isn't it? One member of my entourage list, as I have mentioned in my previous post regarding shoes, has just suffering from an "I'm alone now and it's the end of my world" drama as she and her boyfriend of 7 years just ended their relationship and decided to break up. I could blame her if she feels alone now and she wants to be out casted first. I guess, that is just a normal feeling especially for somebody like her who invested so much time, money and effort in their 7-year course of relationship. It just made me wonder why couples nowadays no longer send a goodbye letter. People can just break a relationship with just a simple SMS or phone call. That is something disappointing because as a person who loved somebody genuinely, I guess one should deserve some respect of talking and ending the relation 'in person.' But that is not the case of JL. M, her ex-better half had the guts to tell JL that he is no longer happy with their relationship and that he wants to start a life of his own. When I learned this the other day, JL and I talked over the cellphone for more than 20 mins. as I tried to comfort her. I told her all the things that I did when I had my first break with my college bf. There are so many things that she can do in order to overcome loneliness. But bottom line is, she is the one who is in the driver's seat. She is the one who is directing her life. She can only find support from her circle of friends and family but at the end, she's still going to be the one to decide whether she wants to move on or cry over spilled milk. Reading articles on relationship can be a therapy too. Websites like http://www.romanceforeveryone.com/ can be very helpful as it offers a wide range of readings and other stuff that will make her understand men, relationships and more importantly, online dating. JL and I, together with Bebeh will go out this Saturday. We're gonna take her gown measurement and I'll treat her. That's the least thing that I can do for a friend who is experiencing a life-changing event like this.
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